Wanted Perfect Husband" :The Art of Being One

The Secret of a Strong Building is the Foundation:
the taller it is the deeper the foundation should be

Since I wrote in my previous post "wanted perfect wife" I also decided to write this post "wanted perfect husband". Because it would be imbalance and unfair if I would not write about the other side of the coin. As I said in the post "wanted perfect wife",I am not writing this post because I am looking for one but to simply share to you what are the expectations of being a husband and the how of it.

In the Philippines they have this quotations which defines the role that the husband and the wife play and it goes this way "Ang Ama ang haligi ng tahanan ang Ina ang ilaw na nagbibigay ng liwanag ng bahay". We could translate this in English this way "The Father is the post that supports the home and the Mother is the lamp that gives light to the home." For a building to last against earthquakes, flood,wind and waves the secret is the foundation. The deeper the foundation the stronger the building. The role of the husband in the family is to be the foundation, deeply buried foundation so as to be a strong support to the family. How would be a perfect husband?

There is a character in the Christian Bible that is a fit model and example of a perfect husband, that is Joseph of Nazareth the foster father and guardian of Jesus and the husband of Mary. Joseph showed that unconditional love for Mary so much so that he forgets himself for te good of the woman he dearly love. Happy the woman is who's husband is as perfect as Joseph. A man who is willing to sacrifice everything for the good of the other. A man who her wife never finds a single vice. The man who is always willing to lend a hand to do some of the house tasks despite of his tiredness from his work. A man who never seeks personal pleasure and never selfish. A man who only thinks of the good of his family and willing to spread his own heart like a carpet so that the others has a softer space to trod on. A man who knows when to fight for and when to give in his own ideas and personal preferences, when to say his words and when to stay quiet and calm.

Being a perfect husband is not for priveledge few for if you truly love a person you are willing to take everything for that person. But also it is not just a twenty four hour process instead it is a longtime practice and a strong conviction that everything is possible if you really want it.